Going Up, Down, and Onward

Published about 2 months ago • 1 min read

January 7, 2026

"You can’t reason with someone who’s rewriting reality to quiet their conscience."
—Linda MacDonald

Up, Down, and Onward

The start of a new year has a way of pulling us into reflection as we look back on what’s been and forward toward what might be next. As I’ve been doing that personally, I’ve also been doing it with Affair Healing. What follows is a candid look at the past year: the moments that encouraged me, the ones that disappointed me, and the direction I’m moving as we head into the months ahead.

For some of you, this kind of behind-the-scenes reflection won’t be especially interesting, and that’s okay. Feel free to skip it. But for those of you who’ve been helped by our resources, who listen to the podcast, read the articles, or quietly support what we do—I wanted to invite you into the story of what’s been happening here.

This past year included a full website redesign and the relaunch of our podcast, The Affair Recovery Room. Any time you make changes like that, there’s hope, anticipation, and more than a little uncertainty. So here’s an honest look at what’s gone well (the Ups), what hasn’t (the Downs), and where I’m headed next (the Onward). I’ll also name one ongoing Need that I keep hoping might eventually be met.

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Another "Best Clips" Episode

Part 2 of the best clips from our episodes in 2025, with comments.
Coming next week: My interview with Linda MacDonald (author of Helping Your Spouse Heal from Your Affair and her new book, Redeeming the Post-Affair Divorce).

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