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January 21, 2026

New Online Group: Recovery Room Reflections

I want to see if there's enough interest in hosting a free online meeting to discuss the topics of recent podcast episodes. I'll schedule our first one during the first week of February if there is enough interest.

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"Everything can be taken from a man but one thing: the last of the human freedoms—to choose one's attitude in any given set of circumstances." —Viktor Frankl

Meaning in Suffering? 5 Takeaways from my interview with Dr. Bruce Chalmer

  • Dr. Chalmer estimated that nearly half of the couples who sought counseling had been affected by infidelity.
  • He defines faith as a mindset that believes there is something meaningful in even the bad experiences of life. This kind of faith is not dependant on religion or doctrine.
  • This kind of faith facilitates growth. The absence of faith leaves us stuck, victimized.
  • Our spiritual beliefs can either be a help or hindrance to healing from infidelity.
  • His 3 steps of forgiveness: forgive yourself, forgive others, and forgive God. "Forgiving God" simply means believing that the grand theme of things is good even when we cannot understand why bad things happen

Podcast Episode 39

Psychologist Bruce Chalmer joins Tim Tedder to explore infidelity as a crisis of meaning and the role of faith in affair healing.

Trusting the Process

This is the first of the 4-part closing to Rising Phoenix's series of posts about recoverying from her husband's affair. In thisi post, she writes about the first year of her recovery with a focus on survival, not healing. Watch for my future podcast interview with the auther.

See also...

Post: When the Affair Stopped Being the Headline
A couple realizes healing has taken hold when the affair no longer dominates every conversation.

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