May 13, 2026

You may have noticed things have been quieter than usual around AffairHealing.com. That's because I've been in the middle of selling my house and moving. The dust is nearly settled, and in a couple of weeks, I'll be back in full swing. I'll be asking for your input in deciding what comes next.

"To be yourself in a world that is constantly trying to make you something else is the greatest accomplishment."

—Ralph Waldo Emerson

Trying for Authenticity

Over the past four episodes of The Affair Recovery Room, I've been pulling back the curtain to show you parts of my life: my first marriage, my affair, and the slow, sometimes painful work my ex-wife and I have done to heal.
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There were years when I was tempted to let that part of my story quietly disappear. To reinvent myself. Move on. But I've learned that resisting authenticity and vulnerability didn't protect me; it put me at greater risk of repeating the very mistakes I was trying to leave behind.
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The battle hasn't been won. I still face challenges. I'm still learning things about myself I'd rather not have to learn.
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I've spent decades helping people navigate affair recovery, and along the way, I've built a reputation. But I'm less interested in cultivating an admirable image than in giving you an honest account of what it looks like to keep growing—not a clean, polished version of my story, but the real one. The good chapters and the disappointing ones alike.
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They all deserve to be told. And I'll be sharing more of them soon.

Final Episode: A Conversation with My Ex about Relationships After Divorce​
Konnie and I reflect on the cooperative relationship we've built since our divorce, and some of our adult children share what it has meant to be part of this family.

Video & Comment: Do People Cheat in a Happy Relationship?​
Drs. John & Julie Gottman discuss whether people cheat in happy relationships. I provide additional comments.

If you had an affair and need help, I'd love to connect with you. Tell me your story and I'll give you some personal feedback. I've been there. No judgement. No catch.