June 10, 2026

Thank you to those of you who completed the recent survey. In this newsletter, I'll share my response and let you know what's changing. (You'll have to read all the way down.)

"It is not enough to be busy. The question is: what are we busy about?"

—Henry David Thoreau

A Personal Look at What's Next

​I posted the survey results on the website, so they're public. But I'm only sharing my reaction to those results with you.
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A year ago, when I started producing new podcasts and emailing newsletters each week, I hoped the response would be similar to what it had been five years earlier. That turned out to be optimistic. Now, the number of available podcasts has increased dramatically, and many other "affair recovery" resources are available—some good, some not. It's much harder to find a firm footing now.
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One clear measure of whether the resources I create are valuable is the growth in the number of users. Even if it's more difficult for a new user to find Affair Healing now, I expected that user recommendations and favorable ratings would gradually grow the user base. And the fact that I've had some presence since 2009 meant I wasn't starting from scratch.
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But the growth has been less than I'd hoped.
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​[continued at the bottom of the newsletter...]

Episode #60: Elisa, 6 Years Later​
​Six years after her husband’s betrayal and abandonment (episodes 2-4), Elisa returns to talk about what life has been like since, including meeting the other woman, dealing with her ex, and learning to date again.

Episode #61: Trust Yourself After Being Betrayed​
Zerina Dervini and I discuss rebuilding your self-trust and identity after betrayal.

What Else Is New...

• Download: REVISED Flip Journal​
  ​Downloadable guide for a simple but effective alternative to the standard journaling process. Helpful in processing intrusive thoughts or negative emotions. (Updated)
• Video: Help for the Heartbroken​
  ​Dig into the psychology of why rejection causes us pain, and explore strategies to cope with this common experience.
• ​Survey Results​
  ​Results of a 1-minute survey to decide “what’s next” for AffairHealing.com.
• Post: How Could I Have Been So Blind?​
  When betrayal blindsides you, the shame of not having seen it coming belongs to your partner's choice to deceive, not your failure to notice.​

[A Personal Look... continued from above]​
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Website traffic has increased significantly over the past year, but our visitor statistics are still far below what they once were.
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Each week, our newsletter list gains a few and loses a few. I cleaned up the list early on, removing inactive emails and giving others the option to opt out, but a year later, our signup count is almost exactly the same as it was then, despite regular efforts to promote it.
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The best measure of podcast growth is how many people listen to an episode in the first 7 days after its release. That number will rise as more people find the podcast. Based on our past success, I assumed that within a year we'd see that number double or triple. It has only risen slightly.
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Even more discouraging than the numbers is how difficult it has been to connect with readers. Several attempts to promote and run free online group sessions drew little response. The typical response rate to any newsletter request is about 0.2%, meaning that for every 500 readers, roughly one person responds.
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Producing these resources is my passion—that won't change. I especially like to infuse creativity into what I do, something I did more of in the podcasts.
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But I'm going to slow down a bit... focus on what I enjoy most. Here are the changes I will be making:
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​Newsletter: Starting immediately, I'll reduce the newsletter frequency to 2-3/month through the summer, then re-evaluate. I'll also clean inactive readers from the list. And for those who stay, I'll be including special discounts and promotions available only to newsletter subscribers.
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​Website: I've already made the first change, prompted by survey comments. Last week, I created the Resource Finder, which consolidates all resources on AffairHealing.com and helps users find what they need most. There is also a "What's New" button that shows all recently added resources. I will keep adding resources to the site each week.
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​Podcast: I'll continue to create new episodes, but may eventually reduce the release rate from weekly to once every two weeks. I haven't decided that yet. I also want to find a way to refocus attention on past episodes that still have high value but may be missed by newer listeners.
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​Coaching and Courses: While continuing to offer independent coaching sessions for individuals and couples, I plan to increase the integration of courses with coaching to enhance instruction and change. New courses will be created, and course/coaching combinations will be offered at a cost savings.
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​As always, you're welcome to share your thoughts with me. Feel free to write back.