No Pretending

Published about 2 months ago • 1 min read

Nov 26, 2025

The current RENOVATE Project group (for Involved Partners) was SOLD OUT, but I'll be starting a new group after the holidays. If you're interested in finding out more, visit AffairHealing.com/renovate.

"Gratitude isn’t pretending the storm doesn’t hurt — it’s noticing that you’re still here, still breathing, still becoming." —Brené Brown

What's your Thanksgiving?

No pretending... just honesty. Tell me one thing about your affair recovery or personal growth that you're grateful for. I'd like to include your answer in my Thanksgiving post.

TELL ME: What's one thing you're grateful for?

Podcast: Kevin Leaves - Part 3

Fifteen months after leaving his family, Kevin talks about the summer with his kids, tension with his ex, and growing conflict with his partner, and the unexpected challenges he never saw coming.

What Else Is New...

Rising Phoenix: Choosing Myself
The story of a year after infidelity, moving from total emotional collapse to slow, self-directed healing. As her husband begins his own work and gains diagnoses that add context (not excuses), she discovers the real breakthrough is forgiving herself, not just him. Recovery becomes a homecoming to who she is now: stronger, clearer, and finally choosing herself.
Post: The Smell of Safety: Small Triggers Matter
A betrayed husband’s admission that his wife’s perfume triggers him leads to a quiet shift between them.

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