scary, satisfying

Published 4 months ago • 1 min read

April 29, 2026

Part 2 of the "Conversation with My Ex" podcast series, in which we discuss D-Day and the aftermath, will be released on Friday. The final episode, which looks at our lives after divorce and our effort to be cooperative co-parents, will be released next Tuesday.

"I think as a woman, when your husband leaves you... you wonder: Why me? What did I do?"

—Konnie

Mixed Feelings

This week's podcast episode is one I had been looking forward to releasing. But, honestly, hitting publish brought a wave of feelings I didn't fully expect.

My ex-wife, Konnie, and I sat down and had a real conversation. About our marriage. About my affair. About the wreckage, and what came after. It's honest. My failures are presented in stark reality, not softened or explained away.

The anxiety I felt in releasing came from the realization that we left no place to hide in this one. Critics and haters will have new ammunition.

But there is satisfaction, too. Because what you'll also hear is something I think a lot of people need to know: that healing and grace are genuinely possible on the other side of betrayal, even when the marriage doesn't survive. Especially then, maybe.

Konnie showed up for this conversation with a generosity I don't take for granted. Her willingness made this unique series possible.

Podcast: A Conversation with My Ex, Part 1
My ex-wife and I talk honestly about how we met, why our marriage struggled, and how my affair changed everything.

Post: Why Most Ex-Spouses Never Have This Conversation

More of my thoughts about our conversation, and why it’s hard for divorced couples to talk this way.

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