the drip, drip, drip

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April 8, 2026

Coming in Next Week's Podcast: My interview with Jeremy Lipkowitz discussing porn addiction.

"Clear is kind. Unclear is unkind."

—Brené Brown

Trickle Truth: What's It Really Telling You?

If you've been through betrayal, you probably know the term “trickle truth.” It’s the pattern in which a betrayer reveals the details of their affair slowly, over time, often only after another piece of truth has been discovered or forced out of them. First, the basic admission is offered. Then, more information, when pressed. Then, something more, when the first version falls apart.

Each new revelation lands like a fresh wound, and the message it seems to send is clear: this person is still lying. Still protecting themselves. Still not safe.

That interpretation is not wrong. In many cases, trickle truth is exactly what it looks like: a betrayer who is more committed to managing the fallout than to telling the truth. And as long as that pattern continues, real healing is nearly impossible. You cannot rebuild trust on a foundation that keeps shifting.

But Michelle's story alters that picture in a way worth considering...

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Part 2 of the Rising Phoenix Interview
Michelle, known online as Rising Phoenix, continues her story as whe talks about healing for herself and for her marriage.

Trickle Truth: What's It Really Telling You?
When a betrayer reveals the truth in pieces, the motive behind that pattern matters. [The start of the post is included in this email.]

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