OCT 15, 2025

"The story isn’t over. What they destroyed doesn’t define you; what you rebuild will."

-Linda MacDonald in Redeeming the Post-Affair Divorce

Recently, several of my coaching clients—former unfaithful partners—have told me something encouraging: "Before working with you, I tried other counselors and resources, but this is the first thing that’s really helped me."

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I can’t tell you how grateful I am to hear that. It reaffirms my new focus with the RENOVATE Project, helping involved partners use their past behavior to become the person a partner needs.

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You know how easy it is to keep doing what’s familiar, even when there might be a better way? Of course you do. Change is hard. It’s unpredictable. But when our vision for something better is strong enough, and we’re willing to take the risk, remarkable things can happen.

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That’s why I’m such a believer in vulnerability. It’s uncomfortable, yes, but it’s also the doorway to transformation.

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So, let me ask: Is there a choice you’ve been holding back on—something that could move you forward, but feels risky? Maybe this is your moment to take that first step.

—Tim Tedder

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In "Understand Why: Reasons You Cheated," I provide an overview of the motivations and influences that lead to infidelity. Learn the areas of risk that reveal why it happened—and how clarity can lead to lasting change.

In my opinion, this is THE book to get if you fit the author's target reader: Christians who have been betrayed and abandoned by their spouse. Many of you know the author from her previous work: How to Help Your Spouse Heal from Your Affair.

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I’ve known Linda for many years, and I was delighted to read her new book. It’s precisely the kind of resource I’ve been wanting to share with many of my clients.

What Else Is New...

• Rising Phoenix - Discovery Day: That Morning​
  "Phoenix" writes candidly about her experience on the first morning of D-day. (She'll continue the story of that day in this Friday's post.)
• Post: A Way Through My Wife's Affair​
  ​One man's post about his struggle in working through his wife's infidelity.
• Post: Forgiveness Pie: Turning Guild Into Dessert​
  After his affair, this husband tried to bake his way back into his wife’s heart one pie at a time. His imperfect desserts became a quiet ritual of remorse, persistence, and humor.