March 25, 2026

In addition to his latest publication, Love and Suffering, Anthony Silard offers two free ebooks: The Myth of Happiness and The Myth of Friendship. Scroll to the bottom of his website, theartoflivingfree.org, for information.

"Whatever suffering you've experienced—that's the basis of your growth, if you choose to see it that way."

—Anthony Silard

Be Grateful for THIS?!

I heard this Bible verse a lot as a preacher’s kid: "In everything give thanks." If you've spent any time in church, maybe you’ve heard it used as a kind of spiritual instruction to be grateful for whatever happens to you. For the job loss. For the diagnosis. For the betrayal.
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I used to struggle with that teaching. I still do.
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Because if you're sitting in the middle of what infidelity has done to your life, your marriage, your sense of self, being told to feel thankful for it can feel like one more thing being asked of you that you simply don't have to give. Or worse, it can feel like minimizing the seriousness of the damage—like someone is silver-lining their way past your pain.
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So let me offer a different reading of that verse—In everything give thanks—one that I think is actually more honest.
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There's a difference between being thankful for every circumstance and being thankful in every circumstance. One asks you to pretend the bad thing wasn't bad. The other asks you to stay open, even inside the bad thing, to whatever is still good and still possible.
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That's a hard ask. It doesn't let you off the hook. It doesn't minimize what happened; it just refuses to let the worst thing become the only thing...
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