Too long? Or not long enough?

Published about 1 month ago • 1 min read

October 22, 2025

"In the past, I would’ve said once a cheater always a cheater, but I know differently because of this podcast."

-in an email received this week

Once A Cheater, Never Again

I love the message of grace and hope, and the knowledge that our worst failures don't have to define us for the rest of our lives. In fact, those failures can become the catalyst for our most profound change, despite what the "Leave a Cheater" crowd might say.

That's why I'm so excited about being able to offer The RENOVATE Project to formerly unfaithful partners (like me). I still have an opening for the next group (starting November 6), so if you're wondering if it's something for you, click the link and fill out the short form. No obligation at all.

This latest podcast addresses the questions: How long does affair recovery take? Can it take too long? Could it not be long enough?

I use comments, a story, and two audio sketches to help consider these questions, to better understand how to experience genuine affair healing.

"Rising Phoenix" continues her vivid account of how she experienced the Discovery Day of her husband's affair. Her writings are personal and powerful. If you haven't read them yet, start with her first post and then use the "Read Next" link at the bottom of each post.

New posts appear each Friday.

What Else Is New...

Download: Remembering the Good
An individual exercise to help you recall those things that are good about your partner, your marriage.
Post: His Affair Partner with My Kids
One woman writes about her anguish over knowing her kids were being introduced to the husband's affair partner.

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