May 29, 2026 I'm considering some significant changes to Affair Healing, and your opinion would be extremely helpful. Read on for more information. I didn't send out last week's message because I was in the middle of selling my house and moving. Every time I've done this, I say "never again...," but we all know how that goes. "Life is about not knowing, having to change, taking the moment and making the best of it, without knowing what's going to happen next." —Gilda Radner Narrowing My Focus...
21 days ago • 1 min read
May 13, 2026 You may have noticed things have been quieter than usual around AffairHealing.com. That's because I've been in the middle of selling my house and moving. The dust is nearly settled, and in a couple of weeks, I'll be back in full swing. I'll be asking for your input in deciding what comes next. "To be yourself in a world that is constantly trying to make you something else is the greatest accomplishment." —Ralph Waldo Emerson Trying for Authenticity Over the past four episodes of...
about 1 month ago • 1 min read
May 6, 2026 It's a ridiculously busy week for me. You, too?But I want to send this quick note to let you know that two new podcast episodes have been released in the past week: the second Conversation with My Ex episode (where Konnie and I talk about her finding out about my affair and the aftermath of that disclosure) and The Children's Experience, in which two of our children (our oldest son and youngest daughter) talk about what they recall about those first years of the broken family.The...
about 1 month ago • 1 min read
April 29, 2026 Part 2 of the "Conversation with My Ex" podcast series, in which we discuss D-Day and the aftermath, will be released on Friday. The final episode, which looks at our lives after divorce and our effort to be cooperative co-parents, will be released next Tuesday. "I think as a woman, when your husband leaves you... you wonder: Why me? What did I do?" —Konnie Mixed Feelings This week's podcast episode is one I had been looking forward to releasing. But, honestly, hitting publish...
about 2 months ago • 1 min read
April 22, 2026 You've heard my side; now hear hers. I sat down with my ex-wife to talk about our marriage, my affair, and life after divorce. It's an open, honest conversation you can hear in the brand-new series releasing next week on The Affair Recovery Room podcast. "Feelings are real, but they're not facts." —Kayla Crane, podcast interview Your Feelings are Rooted in Your Past When someone has an affair, they rarely describe it as a calculated decision. More often, they say something...
about 2 months ago • 1 min read
April 15, 2026 In this newsletter, I’m using the substitute "P//N" to refer to something that often stays hidden behind vague language, closed tabs, and a lot of discomfort. I’m choosing that workaround to keep this email deliverable and make room for a conversation that many people need, and few feel safe enough to start. "Shame thrives on secrecy, silence, and judgment." —Brené Brown, Atlas of the Heart An Uncomfortable Topic This week, I released two major resources dealing with the issue...
2 months ago • 1 min read
April 8, 2026 Coming in Next Week's Podcast: My interview with Jeremy Lipkowitz discussing porn addiction. "Clear is kind. Unclear is unkind." —Brené Brown Trickle Truth: What's It Really Telling You? If you've been through betrayal, you probably know the term “trickle truth.” It’s the pattern in which a betrayer reveals the details of their affair slowly, over time, often only after another piece of truth has been discovered or forced out of them. First, the basic admission is offered. Then,...
2 months ago • 1 min read
April 1, 2026 I love a good April Fool's joke, but this email doesn't include any. Just the real stuff... "[Healing] started when I admitted I was scared—when I stopped performing "progress" and allowed my pain to be seen, held, and honored." —Michelle, aka Rising Phoenix Who Should You Tell? Not every story needs to be shared with the world. When Michelle and her husband first faced the aftermath of infidelity in their marriage, they were certain of one thing: no one would ever know. Shame...
3 months ago • 2 min read
March 25, 2026 In addition to his latest publication, Love and Suffering, Anthony Silard offers two free ebooks: The Myth of Happiness and The Myth of Friendship. Scroll to the bottom of his website, theartoflivingfree.org, for information. "Whatever suffering you've experienced—that's the basis of your growth, if you choose to see it that way." —Anthony Silard Be Grateful for THIS?! I heard this Bible verse a lot as a preacher’s kid: "In everything give thanks." If you've spent any time in...
3 months ago • 1 min read