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Affair Healing

A weekly newsletter offering affair recovery help through articles, podcasts, downloads, and recommended resources. Presented by Tim Tedder, an affair recovery counselor for over 20 years.

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Nov 19, 2025 "There is a difference between accountability and cruelty. Accountability says, 'I see what I did, I understand why, and I will do better.' Cruelty says, 'I am unforgivable. I am broken beyond repair.'"—Steve De'lano Garcia Failure. It shows up in every affair-healing story. It threads its way through nearly all the resources I create.And when our failure is significant, shame usually barges in—sometimes shouting accusations, sometimes whispering ridicule. It grabs our attention....

Nov 13, 2025 If you’ve listened to our podcasts or audio posts, you already know that some of the most meaningful moments come from real people sharing their stories and questions. We’d love to hear from you. Whether you have a comment, a question, or a brief reflection on your own experience (90 seconds or less), your voice matters. We may include recorded messages in future resources, and you’re welcome to remain anonymous if you prefer. Just slip into a quiet spot and tell us what’s on...

Nov 5, 2025 Not long ago, I recommended a new book written specifically to Christians who have been betrayed and abandoned by their spouses. The book is now available in paperback. Check it out here: Redeeming the Post-Affair Divorce, by Linda MacDonald. "When I first came here, I was happy. I didn't feel guilty. Now I feel more like—did I make a mistake?" —"Kevin" Several years ago, I was coaching a man (we'll call him Kevin) who chose to leave his wife and children to begin a new life with...

October 29, 2025 I've moved this week's quotes to the bottom of the newsletter since there are a few of them... recent podcast reviews from Spotify and Apple Podcasts. A Creative Spark in The Recovery Room For over 40 years, I’ve felt that part of my life’s purpose is to “creatively communicate a message of healing and hope.” That creativity has shown up in many forms—speaking, writing, singing, storytelling, acting, even graphic design. I’ve always been looking for new ways to weave art and...

October 22, 2025 "In the past, I would’ve said once a cheater always a cheater, but I know differently because of this podcast." -in an email received this week Once A Cheater, Never Again I love the message of grace and hope, and the knowledge that our worst failures don't have to define us for the rest of our lives. In fact, those failures can become the catalyst for our most profound change, despite what the "Leave a Cheater" crowd might say. That's why I'm so excited about being able to...

OCT 15, 2025 "The story isn’t over. What they destroyed doesn’t define you; what you rebuild will." -Linda MacDonald in Redeeming the Post-Affair Divorce Recently, several of my coaching clients—former unfaithful partners—have told me something encouraging: "Before working with you, I tried other counselors and resources, but this is the first thing that’s really helped me." I can’t tell you how grateful I am to hear that. It reaffirms my new focus with the RENOVATE Project, helping involved...